Fear consumes me to my very core.
Even on my so-called “good days”. Fear overwhelms me.
I’m constantly afraid of the future pain I will face (both physical and mental), the losses, the mistakes, the betrayals, the misunderstandings, the hurt feelings, the mass terrorist attacks that change life as we know it, the germs, a new diagnosis…. etc.
As you can imagine new years brings all these fears to the forefront of my mind. What will this year bring? I can’t think of a single year in my past that I’d want to live through again. I can’t think back to any year and say, “wow, such a good year!”. Sure, I have the occasional bout of hope. The rare thought that maybe, just maybe this year will be different. Maybe this will be the year I find the answers I need for treatment, maybe this will be the year I get my life back… But just as fast as the positive thought passes through my head the dark storm of fear and doubt pour in and encompass my whole being, reminding me that sure, there is a chance for improvement, but with that chance of change comes the chance of complete and total destruction.
It’s not death I fear, it’s living through torment.
I don’t see the glass half full. The extreme pain and misfortune has shattered any rose-colored glasses that may have once been worn.
I’m in that awful phase of I do NOT want to relive my past because it hurts so much, then again I’m afraid of the future because I am fully aware things could be SO much worse.
I don’t want to stay where I am because I’m miserable, but at the same time at least I know mostly what to expect in my present miserable.
ugh.
Does any of that even make sense?
Perhaps not to a reader without chronic illness. But I venture to say, if you live in a state of constant never-ending mental and physical pain, you get it.
You are nodding along saying “me too”. Saying, “yes, I get it!”
As my husband so sweetly reminded me as I cried this new year with fear of the future, and the mourning the loss of normal. He said to me, New Years is only a new day, just like every other day. No need to put pressure or expectations on yourself.
So at the advice of my dear man, I am trying to continue on as if it’s just another day. Because he’s right. Everyday is a new day. We can’t stop the bad things, but we can work to empower ourselves to breath in and out and face what comes.
We are strong. If you suffer with chronic, life-altering, physical and mental pain and you are still here fighting. You are strong. It takes HARD work to live this life.
God is my strength, I pray He can also be yours.
Keep Fighting,
Amy